School is out for the summer, but school librarians (and teachers) don’t just work ten months of the year. Summer is time for rejuvenating, updating lessons, and other plans to prepare yourself for the start of school in the fall. In addition to those projects, whether you are an experienced librarian, new on the job, or starting in a new school or grade level, this is a good time to look for ways to use the time to address how your community sees you.

We develop opinions about others based on the behaviors others exhibit. While you are making these assessments, your colleagues, students, and administrators are doing the same thing for you. In her SmartBrielf article, Hidden behaviors that shape how colleagues and managers see you, Anne-Maartje Oud addresses seven ways we are unknowingly sending a message about who we are and what we care about. Here are her seven, along with my usual comments on how these play out in our education world.

1. Are you present? – Whether it’s a professional development session or a faculty meeting, have you already decided it’s really meant just for the teachers? If you are tuned out, your colleagues (and principal) are likely to notice. Even if you are correct as to the intended audience, listen for upcoming changes being planned. Learn what is important to the faculty and consider ways to support them. This is how you get ahead of what teachers will need and what your principal is looking for.
2. What is your body language? Do you fidget? Check your watch to see how much longer this meeting/conversation/presentation will last? You are telling others you aren’t interested in what is being said. This can have an especially negative impact in a one-on-one discussion. Rather than show impatience, if you are pressed for time, tell them, and ask to speak with them as soon as possible in the future. Oud says to maintain a “steady eye contact and …pause without filling the silence.” Also, “small signals, like nodding while someone explains something, encourages people to keep sharing their thoughts.”
3. How do you treat others? – Gossip is, unfortunately, a major form of communication in schools. Don’t engage in it. Mostly, it’s biased and especially damaging toward the administration. When a negative comment about a teacher is repeated, not only can it alienate the teacher, but if you are found to be the one saying it, it will also show you aren’t trustworthy. You have heard the expression, “Little pitchers, big ears.” Students are also listening. You don’t want them repeating what you said about a teacher, student or administrator. –Always assume someone is listening.
4. Are you all about work? – And only about work? You need to diversify your time. Yes, you are very busy. On the other hand, we are about relationship building. Do you eat lunch with teachers? You might not be able to do it every day but try to do it occasionally. It creates a bond. (But remember #3 – no gossiping when you do.)
5. Are you consistent? – Do you keep your word? When you tell someone you will send them a copy of a document you got at a conference or forward them resource links to help them with a project, do you get it to them quickly or do they need to ask for it? Unfortunately, they probably won’t, and they will lose trust in what you say. A relationship building opportunity hays been lost.
6. Do you ask questions? – To ask meaningful questions, you need to be listening. We know how important this is when we work with students. It’s just as important when dealing with our colleagues. Showing you are focused on what they are saying builds connections and strengthens the relationship. And you may learn something you missed or discover a new place where you can offer support..
7. How do you deal with feedback? – Sure we want the positive feedback. Negative feedback is hard to hear, but we aren’t going to improve without it. I always liked asking teachers what I could have done better. You probably did well, but we all need to grow. Remember Ranganathan’s quote, “The library is a growing organism.” If we are not growing, we are dying.

You probably do some of these behaviors better than others. Summer is the perfect time to work on where you feel weaker by practicing with friends and family. And consider where and when, come the fall, you want to be able to be stronger at presenting yourself to your colleagues, students and administrators. Present yourself as the leader you are!