You can’t escape failing. Maybe the word “embracing” is a bit much, but whenever you try something new or different, the risk of failure is always present. Knowing this is often what prevents you from trying. But there are lessons that come with each setback and the more you are willing to learn, the stronger leader you will be.
How would you speak to yourself if you were one of your students who wasn’t trying because of the fear of failure? You would tell them that failure is important and worth the effort. Whether it is learning to ride a bike, throwing a curve ball, or playing chess, no one gets it right the first time. Frequently they don’t get it right the second time. I can hear you say the consequences of failing at those is quite different from what you would experience if something you tried for your library didn’t work, but what are your choices? Taking a risk and possibly succeeding (particularly if you have thoroughly researched your idea) or staying where you are not advancing your program or your ideas. I love the quote attributed to James Conant, Behold the turtle who only makes progress by sticking his neck out.”
Failure happens in the business world all the time on the way to success, and Lily Daskal, a leadership coach and author of The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness, explains Why It’s Important for Leaders to Fail Well. I love the idea of failing “well.” She points out that beginning skiers learn how to fall safely. We, too, need to fail safely, and not let a failed idea make us believe we are failures. Learning how to fail safely means we need to develop the right attitude towards failure – even welcoming it for the benefits it brings. Daskal identifies seven benefits of failure.
- Failure keeps us focused on our strengths – It sounds counterintuitive, but that is what we need to do. It’s too easy to beat yourself up for the mistakes you made. Although you shouldn’t ignore them, also take stock of what you did right. What were your strengths –and how can you utilize them in another project or improve this one. What weakness did you exhibit? Can you turn it into a strength?
- Failure teaches us to be flexible – Don’t give up on a good plan just because it failed. If it was worthwhile, how can you change it so that it does work? It’s a worthwhile skill to develop for several reasons. For example, you want to turn your library into a Learning Commons. You approached your principal or superintendent enthusiastically and were shot down. Why? What reasons were given? Money? If so, consider revising your concept so it takes longer to complete and allows the cost to be spread out, or look for a grant to cover some of the funding needed. Instead of nursing your wounds, get creative. I had a superintendent who told me her first answer was always, “No.” It got rid of the people who weren’t fully committed.
- Failure teaches us to rethink what we deserve – It’s easy to blame yourself for the failure. It gives you an excuse to quit and not try again. That’s the real failure. Accept responsibility for why the plan or idea failed, but don’t take it personally. It’s part of your growth. And if you’re still fully committed to the idea – you’ll find ways to make it happen.
- Failure reminds us that everything is temporary – When we fail, and we all do at some point, it’s vital not to think this is how it will always be. It’s been said that change is the only constant. As a leader, you need to be looking for any change in direction. As I blogged last week, administrators come and go. What your current one didn’t like, the next one might love, particularly since you learned from what didn’t work.
- Failure shows us it’s not fatal – The failure was yesterday. Today is a new day, and you are alive and well. If you try only a few projects, every failure looks huge. Do more and the number of successes will outweigh the ones that didn’t work. It’s how you build your “street creds.” You demonstrate perseverance by digging in and moving on.
- Failure disciplines our expectations – It’s great when we get excited about introducing something new. However, our enthusiasm can sometimes blind us to what is realistic. This doesn’t mean you don’t attempt big things. You don’t say, “They never want to try something new.” It’s recognizing that not everyone sees the project the way you do. You need to create a foundation of support before you move into introducing your idea.
- Failure instructs us to keep trying – There is wisdom in the adage, “If at first, you don’t succeed, try, try again.” No invention worked the first time it was tried. Leaders in every field know this. They don’t like failing, but they don’t let it stop them.
And here’s one from me:
Failure teaches us to understand our students better – I knew a math teacher who always underestimated how long it would take students to complete a test. She was brilliant in the subject and couldn’t understand the difficulty many of her students faced. Sometimes a person who struggled in school makes the best teacher. Use your experience with failure to help students when they have trouble dealing with their own failures so that they too keep taking the steps that will lead to their next success.