The great philosopher, Socrates, said in the 400s B.C.E. “Know thyself.” Truly words of wisdom. Do you know yourself? In Hamlet, Shakespeare wrote, “To thine own self be true.” If you don’t know yourself, it’s more than a little difficult to be true to yourself. Strong, confident leaders must know themselves and be true to themselves. It is one of the reasons people follow them.
This starts with being honest with yourself about who you are. You may not imagine yourself better than you are, but it is equally dishonest to consider yourself as less. Remember, leaders know their strengths and weakness and look to others to fill in where they need help. They accept their mistakes and where they struggle even as they work to improve. But the imperfections don’t detract from their confidence. It’s part of their self-awareness.
Laurie Ruetimann’s post points out there is no leadership without self-leadership, and self-leadership begins with self-awareness. She addresses these three components of self-leadership:
Self-awareness of Personal Values – This goes back to your philosophy. You have a professional and a personal one. As a school librarian, you should hold the ALA’s and its as core values. It means we stand up for intellectual freedom and access to information. It may mean that when faced with a job situation that violates your personal values, you recognize it as such and make a decision as to whether you leave. If you stay, you know why you made that choice and accept it honestly.
Self-awareness of Intentions and Behaviors – Your word has value. Leaders know their goals and work toward achieving them. They recognize they are the ones ultimately responsible, so they take responsibility for what goes wrong they don’t blame or look to others to solve the problem. It’s on them. In addition, they praise others for their successes because they know success doesn’t depend on one person.
Self-awareness of Personal Perspective – An emotionally intelligent leader accepts bad days and failures as part of life, not as a sign of failure or a reason to give up. When these days happen, take a short while to be upset with what went wrong but don’t dwell on it. Instead, look for solutions. What can potentially be done to make the situation better? What should you differently next time? Knowing your personal perspective allowed you to move forward not get stuck in the past.
1. What am I good at? – Be honest with yourself. List both your professional strengths and your personal ones.
2. What exhausts me? An interesting question. It’s not just the physical tasks. It could also be dealing with certain people. Again, look personally and professionally.
3. What is the most important thing in my life? This list should include personal ones first, in my opinion.
4. Who do I love? Be sure to put yourself on the list.
5. What stresses me out? This is close to #2, but not the same. Working to meet deadlines can stress me out, but it’s not what exhausts me.
6. What’s my definition of success? Another interesting question, and one that should take your time to answer.
7. What type of worker am I? Team player? Self-directed? Over-achiever?
8. How do I want others to see me? Trustworthy? Helpful? Knowledgeable?
9. What type of person do I want to be? Is it different from #8?
10. What things do I value in life? Similar to knowing your personal values, but consider looking at what you value in others.
Ruetiman’s final question is “Does it feel awkward to be self-aware? Her answer – “Probably at first.” We tend to be so focused on looking outwards, we don’t spend enough time looking inwards. We have come to realize the importance of reflection. Self-awareness is part of that. And remember the advice of Socrates and Shakespeare.