Librarians have been fighting the stereotype of the “shushing librarian” for years, but silence can be a powerful tool. As one who was called a “chatterbox” as a child and still talks a lot, this is still one I’m learning to use better and more often. Is it one you could use to better incorporate it into your leadership toolbox.

In his blog article, “The Power of Silence: How to Use Pauses Effectively When You Speak,” Gary Genard focuses on public speaking, however it’s more than that. You also want to remember this when leading students through a learning opportunity, when you have a meeting with the principal, or work with teachers as you collaboratively or corporately plan a research project.

When you are involved in any of those activities, you might discover you have a lot to say, but Genard cautions, “you need to provide audiences with an occasional oasis, i.e., a place of refreshment and recuperation. Without these stopping places, your narrative may begin to feel like a long trek across a featureless desert.” As a result, your audience stops listening in part because they don’t feel they have a part to play in the conversation. Genard offers these four reasons to employ the “power of the pause.”

1. To separate the main segments. – Whatever you are trying to impart has sections that build on each other. Body language is always an important communicator. When you pause, you are saying, “I have completed the first part of what I want you to know. Here comes the next part.” You also invite comments on what you’ve said already.
2. To let something sink in. – What you are saying is familiar to you, but new to your audience. They need time to absorb and consider it. Even if it’s something they have heard before, you want to be certain they understand how it fits in with what you will say next. This is true whether you are working with a students, teachers, or speaking to the principal. It gives them time to raise questions and make points of their own which lets you know if you’re being understood.
3. As transitions. – Genard says, “while we know how the elements of our presentations fit together, the audience doesn’t.” In addition to giving your audience time to process what you just said, the pause is a reassurance that you will connect it to your purpose –and theirs.
4. To help listeners stay tuned. – You don’t want to lose your audience. Every school librarian knows how quickly students can become disengaged. When you take too long, their attention wanders. Pauses bring them back to where you are leading them. You certainly don’t want the principal’s mind to think about non-library issues, nor do you want teachers to feel you aren’t listening to them. A moment of silence actually pulls them into the moment with you.

In his conclusion, Gerard adds Two More Ways Pauses Help You In a Speech – First, the pause turns your “speech” into a conversation. As noted, when talking to teachers and the principal, the pause shows them you seriously consider what they bring to the subject and discussion.  Second, the pause slows you down so you aren’t rushing through what you are saying. It shows your confidence in what you are communicating and makes them open to trusting you.

As a result of your pauses, Gerard says, “Your audience will gain sustenance not only from your content, but from your credibility, confidence, and as the icing on the cake, your leadership.” The word “leadership” is at the heart of this. In all our interactions, we need to be seen as strong leaders.  Our silence can speak to it.