Looking at the people we admire as leaders, it seems as though they are all extroverts, easily speaking up in public, connecting with people at meetings and conferences, presenting at events. Although some leaders are extroverts, just as many powerful leaders are introverts and are capable of becoming meaningful leaders using their strengths and talents.

Loud is not always better. On occasion, it might drown out what other people are saying and feeling. Or even intimidating so that ideas aren’t shared and people feel unheard. As librarians and leaders, we strive to build relationships. Not hearing other people is not the way to do it.  It is in the small daily interactions that introverts excel and demonstrate their leadership.

If extroverted is more your style, take time to learn these strengths of introverts from Benjamin Laker’s article, The Quiet, Transformative Power of Introverted Leaders. And if you identify as an introvert, take time to appreciate what you bring to leadership.

• The Strength of Listening – While extroverts are busy dominating the conversation, introverts are quietly listening to what others are saying. They more easily recognize the different perspectives which are so important when you are trying to make connections with teachers, students, and administrators. When they do speak, it comes from this awareness and their stakeholders feel heard. As an extrovert, I am constantly fighting an inner war to close my mouth and open my ears. Introverts do it naturally.
• The Power of Thoughtful Decision-Making – Extroverts want to get their idea in first. This can become a problem because they are likely to put forward their plan before having considered all the issues and viewpoints involved. The first response might not be the best response. Because they are more likely to have considered the feelings, needs, and concerns of others along with the situation as a whole, when an introvert makes a decision, it has a better chance of being the right fit. Again, this serves us in building relationships which are so vital.
• Leading Through Empathy – Because they listen and observe, introverts are more tuned to the worries, fears, and needs that are behind what others are saying. Introverts are then well-positioned to present an idea or solution that will speak to these issues behind the words people say. As Laker writes: “Introverted leaders excel at one-on-one interactions, where they can connect deeply with individuals, understand their motivations, and offer personalized guidance.” Our stakeholders then feel listened to and cared for.  Empathy is powerful in making the connections that turn into relationships.
• Striking a Balance: Introversion and Extroversion in Leadership – There are times when an extrovert’s strengths are needed. You do need to be able to speak up, so others hear you. Blending the two, introversion and extroversion creates a powerful leader. Recognize which is your natural style to remind yourself when you need to be quiet and listen and when you need to speak up and speak out. Know your strength but cultivate its complement to maximize your impact on your community and your program.

There is no one way to be a leader, and neither extroversion or introversion is inherently better. As Laker says in his conclusion, “leadership is most effective when it embraces a diversity of styles.” Be the great leader your students, teachers, and community need you to be by embracing the things you do well and learning from the style of others.