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It’s Wise to Have Many Whys

We talk about Mission Statements as our “Why.” Looking deeper, the Mission Statement is focused mailing on what you do. It is, as I say, your Perspiration. The underlying “Why” you do it is tied to your values, your life history, and other forces that have created the you who is in this current place.

Making a difference in the learning and school experience of your students is probably one of the “Whys” you have. Other “Whys” might have developed over time, such as promoting intellectual freedom.

Focusing on only one “why” has been the traditional approach. The thinking was you needed to bring your full attention to it in order to be successful. David Zimmerman has a different take on it in his blog article, Leaders, It’s OK To Have Multiple “Whys” where he discusses why more could be better and the power of multipotentiality. Zimmerman begins with these four reasons:

  1. Diverse Perspectives – Librarians, like everyone else, are not clean slates schooled only in librarianship. We have interests and often other careers which can bring greater scope to what we do. Are you crafty? How can that add to your program? It’s not just in making displays. Think of how it benefits a makerspace. Or perhaps you have a good way of bringing local business people into the library which showcases their talents and exposes students to the choices available after school ends.
  2. Adaptability – In a fast-moving world, our multiple interests make us more able to change, pivot, and go through any other gyrations needed to not only catch up but be ahead of the curve. It allows us to be willing to try the new, build on what works, and release what doesn’t. It also shows us the interconnectedness of our interests.
  3. Continuous Growth – A single focus can be limiting. Having multiple passions makes us more likely and able to be continuously growing, being motivated anew by what we discover. As librarians, we are and need to be role models for lifelong learning.
  4. Greater Impact – The assortment of interests and strengths we bring allows us to communicate more personally with a variety of stakeholders. We have more in common, more reasons for connection. When we communicate, we build the relationships that are so vital to carrying out our Mission – and make a difference in the lives of our communities.

Having multiple “Whys” is at the core of multipotentiality. People who embrace multipotentiality are “an adaptable, quick learners with a wide range of skills and creative pursuits, characterized by their curiosity, capacity to learn quickly, and ability to synthesize disparate ideas.” Zimmerman who presents four ways to lead with multipotentiality.

  1. Leverage Your Passions – Take stock of your passions. How can each of them contribute to your role as a school librarian? Whether a love of nature, cooking, or travel, your passion for these parts of you can add creativity and give you greater dimension as a leader.
  2. Create Space for Exploration – Don’t be limited to your current passions and interests. When something piques your interest, try it out. Look for new activities, and then bring them into the rich mix that fuels your program and your leadership.
  3. Cultivate a Growth Mindset – See these new interests as part of your growth. What did you have to do to learn these new interests? How can you bring the experience of that learning process into your daily work?
  4. Encourage It in Others – This is another passion. Bringing the joy of learning and discovery to others. It’s also about the role of leaders in creating new leaders. Seeing others bloom is a special joy.

Your days are full. It seems like a lot to ask you to add to your “Whys,” but you are probably doing it to some degree already. Instead of ignoring those other interests, focus on and include them so you can lean into your passions and interest to bring you to a greater level of leadership.

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Calming the Butterflies

Public speaking. It can make even the most polished professional panicky.. Getting up to speak before an audience can be a terrifying moment. It is said that people fear it more than death. It’s even a challenge for even well-known performers. Adele, Rhianna and Barbra Streisand all reportedly suffer from stage fright.

But you need to face these fears. You are a leader, and at some point, you are going to have to speak before a group or do something else that makes you nervous. When this happens, don’t avoid the possibility and lose the opportunity to show your value to an administrator. It is not what leaders do.

Instead, prepare for it by knowing what to do when the butterflies start churning. In her article, Why the First 30 Seconds of a Stressful Situation Are the Most Critical, Stephanie Vozza provides four steps to get you through those moments. Vozza explains those first seconds are the peak anxiety time. Since this is when all your bodily functions go into freeze and flight, they are the key to getting past the worse of this. Here are her four steps:

  • Practice Meditation – It doesn’t need to be more than two minutes, but if do it each day (or at least regularly), you become accustomed to stilling your heartbeat. When you are faced with getting up to the podium, or anything that has your pulse racing, you can do your accustomed routine. Your body will easily recognize what it needs to do.
  • Just Breathe – Not the usual in and out, but in a more fully mindful way. Become aware of your breathing and your body. Notice the physical manifestations of your tension. Are you clenching your teeth? Are your fingers tightened into fists? By being mindful you can do what it takes to physically relax. Breathe. Notice. Untense those tight muscles.
  • Harness Your Inner Superhero – Just as your body adds to your tension by its responses, it can do the opposite and telegraph confidence. Straighten your stance. Throw your shoulders back. You have this. You know your stuff. You are well prepared. Think of your favorite empowering song and go for it.
  • Rehearse Challenges – One of the best ways to be calm in the moment is to prepare in advance. If you’re giving a presentation, know the opening paragraph. Print it out on something you can read easily without it being too conspicuous. Once you get past that opening, you will be fine. Can you get into the room early? Seeing where you will be can help you to envision yourself succeeding.

How you manage the challenges and stresses you will face as a leader is up to you. As with so many things in life, you can go one of two ways. You can let the stress engulf you and avoid ever doing it again. Or you can embrace the challenge. Prepare yourself in advance and prove to yourself you can handle this.

Being a leader involves getting out of your comfort zone and taking on new challenges. Whether it’s public speaking or running for an office in your state/national organization, there will be scary moments as you start and even once you have attained a new level of being in the public eye. The more often you take the chance, the more often you will succeed. And each success will build an extra layer of confidence.

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Happiness Is Not The Goal

We often talk about striving for happiness, about wanting to achieve it. But if—as the title suggests—it’s not a goal, then what is it?

It’s an outcome.

It comes from within you as a result of your choices, actions, and interactions. Some people can spark it in us, but it’s our reaction to them that makes it happen. Think of a little baby or young child. Being with them makes you happy, but they are being themselves, not working to make you happy. The happiness you feel is your reaction, not what they are trying to do. And expecting something outside of ourselves to deliver happiness is not a realistic approach to life.

But it’s still something we want. After all, the fairy tales always end, “and they lived happily ever after.” So how do we get this outcome?

Interestingly, Jessica Stillman has written an article stating that not only is happiness not a goal, but Neuroscience Says to Be Happier, Stop Thinking About Happiness. Although it sounds counterintuitive, studies have shown that focusing on happiness… makes us less happy. Fortunately, Stillman explains the science and how to successfully bring happiness into your life.

According to a research team, the problem is when we make happiness a goal we expect to be happy all the time. That’s the “proof” they’ve achieved it. But that can never happen – so the goal is unobtainable. Stillman suggests this is an example of Goodhart’s law, an economic principle that states, “when a measure becomes a target, it ceases to be a good measure.”

The research showed that when people pursued happiness, what they really focused on was where it was missing. They saw every not perfect feeling as being a lack in their lives. They saw others appearing cheerful and assumed it was proof that others were happy, and they were not. This, of course, is a faulty gage, because we have no idea how happy other people are if we only know their outside appearances.

As leaders, we need to be aware that if we focus on where we are feeling unhappy, that is communicated in our words, body language and overall disposition. And it does not attract others to you. Instead of building relationships, you create distance. So how can happiness be an outcome instead of a goal?

One of the researchers offered these three suggestions:

  • Accept all your emotions – This works in professional and personal situations. You shouldn’t pretend negative emotions are not there. Nor should you judge yourself (or others) from having them. Once you accept them as a reality, they cease to be a drag you down. And in acknowledging them, you can find the information that the feelings are offering you.
  • Don’t view doing good as a means to an end – It will take the pleasure out of doing them, because you will be judging the action to see if it brought you happiness. Do it because it is the right thing. In my own life, in addition to a Gratitude Journal, I always add one way I gave back. I didn’t do the action to feel happiness but in acknowledging it, happiness is the outcome.
  • Get social – Humans are social animals. Being with others brings a lift to our lives. Of course, do what you can to people who are constantly negative (and don’t be one of those people). As often as you can, connect with the things you love and the people you love to be with. Find joy in your interactions throughout the day.

Be honest with yourself. Are you always trying to be happy? Because if you are, that’s probably taking you away from it. Make the shift from trying to achieve happiness and instead, let it be the outcome of the choices and actions you make. Get goals that matter to you and happiness will be one of the outcomes. When you reframe, you will be a better leader… and a happier person.

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Make Your Message Memorable

Our brains are amazing. We can remember small things that happened to us as children. And we can forget what we ate for breakfast yesterday. While we all joke about our forgetfulness, as leaders who have important messages to share, it’s important to ensure that our audience remembers what we said. This is true for lessons with our students and for any Professional Development (PD) or other or presentations we do for teachers, and our ongoing interactions with principals.

Have you ever spoken with past students who have graduated? Did they talk about projects they did with you, books you recommended, or special events which you organized? This is you making a lasting memory and having a lifelong impact.

How did you do it? How can you do it more often?

In his article, How To Craft a Memorable Message, neurosurgeon Charan Ranganath explains what makes things memorable and what to do to make your message one they remember. He offers these “Four C’s of memorable messages.” (And by giving that concrete connection to his message, you are likely to remember it.)

  1. Chunk it up – Powerful as our brains are, Ranganath says they can hold only a limited amount of information at a time. To get around this, share information under the “umbrella” of a centra idea. For example, if you are giving a talk on Mission and Vision Statements. begin by saying “Your Mission is your ‘Why.’ It’s your Prescription.” You start with the overriding idea you want to convey. Then follow it up with a few details. I think of it as constructing a spider web as I link the ideas together to form a strong and memorable center.
  2. Make it Concrete – To anchor your message, bring in an emotional connection. For all our stress on data and being rational, our decisions and what we remember are tied to emotions. (When students remember you, it will be connected to how you made them feel). With a presentation on Missions, I make sure to share with librarians that without one, you are likely to end your day (or school year) feeling as though their only tools were duct tape and a fire extinguisher.
  3. Provide Callbacks – Insert opportunities for listeners to recall what you said. This further implants those ideas/concepts/techniques in their brain. My presentation on Missions usually includes Vision Statements as well. I introduce that part by reminding that I said Missions are their “Why”, their Perspiration. Visions, by contrast, are their Aspirations and Inspirations. When I move into the values that underlie them, I refer to it as the Foundation.
  4. Spark Their Curiosity – Ranganath says, “I have learned that the key to memorable communication lies not in conveying the answer, but in establishing a compelling question.” We know the importance of having a strong Essential Question for the learning projects we create (hopefully, with teachers). To begin my presentation, I will ask, “What would it be like if at the end of the day, you always felt as though you had your aims and were successful? What would your library look and feel like if it were everything you wished it were?”

You send your messages out daily. How many of them resonate and stick with listeners? Do the messages in your PDs and presentations remain in your audiences’ memories? Improving all aspects of your communication skills improves you as a leader. How will you use the “4 C’s” today?